What Does a Woman Really Want in a Man?

Have you ever noticed that women have a tendency to pick men who don’t treat them well over a guy who is super nice?

Why is that so?

Because women are craving the polarity that comes from strong masculine energy.

The guy who’s super nice is flowing from more of his feminine energy of trying to nurture and care for and do everything to get the woman to like him. This often does not generate enough polarity between the feminine and masculine to attract the woman.

The “problems” come in because both the man and the woman have not addressed their inner fears, and so they attract each other to bring those fears to the surface.

The masculine energy that tends to control and overpower the feminine energy becomes attractive to the woman because of the polarity generated by that masculine energy, even though the woman does not want to be controlled and overpowered.

However, this is toxic masculinity. There’s nothing wrong with it. It’s simply generated from fear, which is exactly what wants to be healed!

Because of the conditional love structures of our relationships, we have a tendency to expect another person to do things or not do things so that we avoid those “negative” feelings.

So we wind up mirroring back and forth all of our fears and those parts of us that want to be healed.

When it comes to the man, he is extremely afraid of allowing his insecurity to be seen. And the fact that men are conditioned to not feel, puts them in a difficult position to heal themselves because we must first feel it before we can heal it.

Yet, that insecurity is exactly what wants to be healed in order to be able to flow from the Divine masculine energy.

And until the man is able to heal that insecurity, he cannot get in touch with his Divine masculine energy, which is exactly what women want in a man.

When both the man and the woman learn how to take responsibility for healing themselves, instead of expecting others to keep them from their hurt feelings, then they position themselves for sacred union.

Everyone is responsible to do their own work of embodying the unconditional love that we are by healing all of the fears and insecurities that arise in our experience.

Women are tired of being responsible for the man’s experience and happiness and having to suppress their thoughts and feelings so that the man does not feel his insecurity.

Women are tired of superficiality and inability to be vulnerable and authentic with our feelings.

Women are tired of being controlled, overpowered and manipulated so that the man does not get in touch with his hurt feelings and insecurities.

Women are tired of being ignored, undervalued, overlooked and ghosted, simply because the man isn’t willing or able to be present with his own fears and insecurities.

Women are tired of having to play small and follow a script so that the man will love us.

Women are tired of being resisted at every turn, which is merely a reflection of the man resisting parts of himself that want to be healed.

What a woman really wants in a man is to be cherished from the energy of unconditional love expressed from the Divine masculine energy he is flowing in.

What a woman really wants in a man is someone who truly unconditionally loves themselves, knows how to heal his insecurities and flows from that confidence. That is so freaking hot!

What a woman really wants in a man is someone who will listen with nonjudgmental presence and allow the woman to open and be vulnerable so that both the man and the woman keep expanding into the infinite love that we are.

What a woman really wants in a man is to be cherished and adored as he has first cherished and adored himself.

What a woman really wants in a man is the freedom to be who she is, as she gives him the same freedom.

It’s time to begin flowing in the unconditional love that we are, instead of expecting other people to do our work.

Our world is depending on us to love and heal ourselves.

Are you ready to show up for yourself today?

Thank you for what you bring to our world.

Namaste, my friends. And I love you so much! ❤️

The Woman Who Walked With Tigers and Not Only Survived But Thrived

Does life feel like you’re surrounded by hungry tigers and you’re spending all your time just trying to survive?

That’s how I felt for a good part of my life. The hungry tigers were the people in my life who were wanting a piece of me. It was my job to keep them happy. 

I had to do what these people in my life wanted because I felt if I didn’t then they wouldn’t love me, they wouldn’t approve of me. And I wouldn’t be a good wife and a good mother because everyone knows that we must put everyone before ourselves. NOT!

That’s a lie. Other people’s happiness is not my responsibility, and it’s not yours. It’s not your job to keep your partner happy, even though he thinks that, and you want him to be happy. 

Let’s look at this. Why do we feel it’s our responsibility to make another person happy at our own expense? Well, it’s because there’s a part of us that craves being loved. 

That part of us is the part of us that feels unloved, unworthy, unwanted. We are trained and conditioned to avoid those feelings at all costs. 

So we put up with a lot of crap so we can feel loved, worthy and wanted. But we wind up actually being treated disrespectfully, not being valued, not being spoken to, not being appreciated, not being touched, and forget about sex, not being allowed to express ourselves, blah blah blah. 

Is that what’s happening to you? 

When I realized the hungry tigers were keeping me in survival mode, I decided to shift all of that. 

I decided to start healing the parts of me that felt unloved, unworthy and unwanted. And I learned how to do that very well. I also learned how to teach other people how to do that. 

From this new an expanded place, I learned how to shift the way I interact with others, so that I am not spending my time trying to get the approval and love of someone who doesn’t  love themselves. How can they give me what they haven’t been able to give to themselves? 

I learned how to give myself the love that I desperately tried to get from the other. That’s when I really started thriving. 

I freed myself from that vicious loop of constantly trying to meet other people’s demands and keep them happy. I took back my power. I took back my freedom. I learned how to generate my own happiness and to allow others to do the same. 

It’s amazing!

Maybe you’re like I was. Stuck in life, suffering from putting everyone else before you, and them totally not giving you what you need and want, especially not your partner. 

And you’re tired...so tired because no matter what you do it’s never enough. 

And all you want is to be loved exactly as you are, to be seen, felt and heard, and you have no idea how to make that happen. 

Ladies, let me help you with that. Send me a DM so we can set up a free call to get clear on the challenges you’re facing and what you would really like to create in your life. 

The call is completely free. If you want to discuss how we may be able to work together, you may request that at the end of the call.

These calls can be very transformational in ways you cannot have imagined. You won’t want to miss this chance to start shifting your life around. You don’t have to keep putting up with all that crap. 

I look forward to connecting with you and learning about what’s going on in your world. 

You are important. You matter. And I love you so much! ❤️ 

Who’s In Charge of Our World?

The 1%! 

Who can actually make a difference and create a new healthy harmonious world?

The spiritual leaders! 

Wait...why aren’t the spiritual leaders in charge?

Because they have the notion that money isn’t important. They give away their stuff for free or charge very little because they believe that money is the reason why we have so many problems. 

Let’s think about this...who benefits from this kind of thinking? Well, the people with money do!

Now they have CONTROL over the people who actually can heal our world by allowing them to believe that their services should be free or cheap, leaving the healers to often struggle financially to make ends meet and are certainly not in the position to fund global change. 

What a clever ploy to keep us small!

By the way, do you know where “I don’t have enough” comes from?

It comes from “I am not enough,” which is our unworthiness, otherwise known as lack of value. 

My friends, that’s exactly what wants to be healed! 

We don’t value what we don’t pay for. So then we don’t experience healing or transformation, and the spiritual healer doesn’t experience abundance. Both parties lose. 

If we expect to heal ourselves and to flow in our abundant value so that we can change the world, we must be able to address scarcity mindset and heal our deep unworthiness. 

How do we do that?

We do that by creating value. 

What that looks like is that we begin investing in ourselves and giving other people the opportunity to invest in themselves in balanced energetic exchanges. 

It’s a simple exchange. Money for healing. It’s no different than buying a car or groceries. If there is a significant transformation to be made, then the energy exchange must be significant. 

When we begin to invest in ourselves and give other people the opportunity to invest in themselves, we create value and we all start transforming, healing and flowing in abundance. 

This is what it’s going to take to heal our world and turn this situation around. We must change our mindset and create value. 

Our world needs us to show up at this time like it’s never needed us before. 

Let’s change the world by valuing ourselves and others. I love you so much. ❤️🌍🦋

To All the People in my Life Who Have Mistreated Me:

Thank you!

Thank you for disrespecting me and not valuing me. Because of you I have discovered my limitless value.

Thank you for trying to control me and make me do whatever you wanted from me. Because of you I have gotten in touch with my unlimited power.

Thank you for suppressing me and not allowing me to express myself. Because of you I have found my most authentic truth and have learned how to express it.

Thank you for ignoring me and neglecting me. Because of you I know who I AM.

Thank you for intimidating me and being passive aggressive. Because of you I have become so courageous.

And about any further mistreatment, disrespect, suppression, neglect, and intimidation...NO, thank you.

You’ve taught me enough. Now it’s time for me to attract people who truly value me, who cherish me, who see me and listen to me and treat me with compassion and unconditional love.

I forgive you. I respect you and your journey. And I wish you the best in your life.