Forehead to Forehead, Heart to Heart

One of the most powerful experiences I’ve had in transforming fear into Love happened in both the dream world and waking life.

It began a few years ago while I was sleeping beside my partner.  

I woke to the sound of him thrashing in the sheets, his breath rapid and panicked.

“Uh! Uh!” he gasped, flailing in the air.

“What’s happening?” I asked gently, placing a hand on him.

“There’s someone here,” he whispered, still shaken. “They’re dark. I think I made him go away.”

I could feel his heart pounding as I pulled him close and cradled him in my arms.

“It’s okay,” I said softly. “It’s over now. Let’s go back to sleep.” 

We settled in again, and as soon as I drifted off, I entered a vivid dream.

It was nighttime. I was at a gas station when I noticed a large, dark figure approaching me.

In an instant, he had pinned me to the ground.

His face hovered inches from mine, radiating a threatening energy.

I could feel his intention to do me harm.

But something inside me rose up—not fear, but Love.

I looked straight into his eyes and began repeating, “I love you. I love you. I love you…”

I must have been speaking out loud, because my partner stirred beside me and asked, “What’s happening?”

Still dreaming, I continued to speak to the man with absolute clarity and compassion. “I love you,” I repeated.

And then, I saw a tear slip from the corner of his eye.

“I love you,” I said once more, with unwavering presence.

And just like that—he transformed.

In a flash, the dark man dissolved, revealing a spectacular Being of pure light.

His eyes shone like beacons.

His hair sparkled.

His garments shimmered with an iridescent glow.

He radiated Divine presence.

Stunned, I exclaimed, “Dang! I just transmuted my fear into Love!”

On another occasion, I experienced a strikingly similar moment—this time in waking life.

I was standing on the corner of 7th and Congress in downtown Austin, holding a “Free Hugs” sign with my tall friend Ed.

It was midday, and the streets were bustling.

I was smiling wide, ready to offer hugs to strangers, when I saw a homeless man—clearly under the influence—crossing the street, heading straight toward me.

I didn’t look away. I met his gaze with open-hearted compassion, no fear.

He dropped his bag and started yelling, “WHERE IS GOD?!”

I gently held my arms open.

“WHERE IS GOD?!” he shouted again, louder.

Still, I stood calm and centered.

He stepped closer, until we were toe-to-toe, forehead-to-forehead, eyes locked.

He lifted a strand of my hair and hissed, “If you’re God, how many strands of hair is this? What is the composition of this hair?”

Looking into his soul, I answered quietly but clearly, “You are loved.”

“You are loved,” I repeated with deep sincerity.

A huge crocodile tear welled in his eye and slid down his cheek.

He stepped back. I stepped forward and gently placed my hand on his heart.

“It’s okay. You are loved,” I said again, tears now streaming from my own eyes.

He stepped back once more, walked around me, picked up his pack, and wandered away.

Ed, who had witnessed the entire encounter from my side, turned to me with concern. “Are you okay?”

“Yes, I AM,” I said, meeting his eyes. “That man just needed a little Love. And he knew exactly where to go to find it.”

Embracing Grief: The Three "S" Approach to Healing

Life can be overwhelming and painful at times, especially when we’re grieving the loss of a loved one.

It’s a journey filled with intense emotions that can feel insurmountable.

A common way to cope with grief is to stay busy—distracting ourselves from the heartache.

However, this strategy often proves to be a temporary solution.

When we least expect it, the weight of grief can crash down upon us like a mighty ocean wave, leaving us breathless.

In our moments of exhaustion, overwhelmed by responsibilities, we struggle to confront such profound feelings.

It’s then that I invite you to embrace the three “S”s to stabilize you on your grief journey: Slow down, Simplify, and be Still.

Slow Down: At first glance, slowing down may seem counterintuitive when you’re faced with sorrow. Yet, it’s the key to healing.

The process of recovery from intense grief demands a significant amount of energy and focus.

Racing around, tending to everyone but yourself, leaves little room for nurturing your own heart.

Running from your feelings won’t make them vanish; in fact, they will persistently pursue you until you acknowledge them.

Simplify: To forge a path toward healing, you must simplify your life.

Take a moment to reflect on how you allocate your time and energy.

Are the activities and commitments you invest in truly essential for your well-being?

You may discover that many pursuits are mere distractions, diverting you from the vital work of healing.

It’s all too easy to fall into the trap of prioritizing the urgent over the important—your healing.

Ask yourself: What steps can you take to simplify your life starting today?

Be Still: A crucial aspect of your healing journey is cultivating a practice of stillness.

This practice allows you to calm your overstimulated nervous system and reconnect with your true essence, transcending the turmoil of earthly emotions.

Set aside at least five minutes each day to simply sit and do nothing.

Observe your thoughts and feelings without judgment, allowing them to exist without resistance.

When faced with triggers or distress, take 5 minutes to decompress in stillness.

In these quiet moments, solutions and feelings of peace may arise that were previously inaccessible amidst the chaos of your mind.

Remember, your presence is your most important asset.

It’s time to connect with the real you—beyond the cacophony of loud emotions.

By slowing down, simplifying, and embracing stillness, you can rediscover the Love that you are.

You will find yourself feeling less stuck and overwhelmed, cradled in the warm embrace of your Higher Self.

Are you ready to show up for yourself in a new way today?

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If you are navigating your grief journey and feel prepared to begin connecting with your departed loved ones, click the link below for invaluable resources and support:

Healing Hearts Support for Bereaved Parents Linktree

You are warmly invited to join our support community, focusing on healing, wholeness, and connection.

Big love to you!

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The Complexity of Grief: Honoring Lives and Lessons

When someone we love passes to the other side, the grief we feel over their death is palpable, yet seldom discussed is the grief surrounding their life.

The departed loved one might have faced tremendous trauma during their time on Earth, which could have led to deep-seated issues within the family framework.

In some instances, they may have chosen to end their own life, perceiving existence as an insurmountable challenge.

The stigma surrounding suicide can be incredibly debilitating for those left behind.

Not only must they grapple with the death of their loved one, but they also bear the weight of societal shame, often feeling ostracized and alone in their mourning.

I understand this pain and complexity—it is not easy.

In my experience, my son Cory struggled with alcoholism, drug addiction, periods of homelessness, and even incarceration.

However, he also underwent profound transformation and generously brought me along for the journey.

His sudden, unexpected death sparked a deep awakening within me.

In moments of quiet reflection, I have been able to connect with him on the other side.

One day, I asked Cory why he came to Earth.

His reply was powerful: “I came to shake things up, and I had to be shaken up in the process.”

From this higher vantage point, I recognize that Cory and I agreed to play these roles in this lifetime so that we could learn essential lessons as souls.

In our dynamic, he chose the more challenging role, willing to dive into the depths of struggle to transform shadows back into light.

Even if a soul cannot transmute their darkness into light within a single lifetime, they still serve an important purpose for the collective, navigating the complexities of the human experience.

Unfortunately, this vital contribution often goes unrecognized by the human mind conditioned to judge from a limited perspective.

I hold deep respect and honor for those souls who have chosen to traverse difficult paths.

These journeys do not unfold in isolation; they happen within our relationships.

We must recognize that even when it seems like the individual creating chaos is the “problem,” those who are closely connected to them have an equal journey of inner work to undertake.

Essentially, we are all playing various roles in the intricate play of life.

Sometimes we embody the roles of villains; at other times, we are the victims.

Imagine attending a theatrical performance, where at the final curtain call, every actor, regardless of their character, takes a bow.

You applaud both the heroes and the villains, acknowledging that behind each character is a performer executing their part.

Life mirrors this: each one of us is a manifestation of the Divine, God in costume, including those who play the roles of villains.

Each so-called “villain” bears the burden of their role, often at significant personal cost, their own suffering.

So, let’s reflect on the roles of our departed loved ones who may have caused us pain during their time here.

They have taken one for the team, as their contributions to our lives were instrumental in our personal growth.

Also, there is no shame for those who exit by suicide.

There is no hell.

Hell is a construct our minds create.

The shame we experience is a societal construct and holds no power over the soul's journey in the afterlife.

However, in their life review, they will experience the pain caused by their actions—a natural part of their growth cycle, but it is presented in a nonjudgmental way.

The other side is pure love, bliss, light, and harmony—indescribable in human terms.

For me, Cory facilitated profound transformation before he departed, yet there remained much work between us.

The Universe kindly sent others, mirroring Cory’s journey, to help me navigate the lessons still ahead.

Understand that this is Earth school, and everything we encounter is part of our curriculum.

In the heavenly realms, distinctions like right and wrong fade away. It is a realm of nonjudgment and unity.

This is our greatest opportunity: to let go of all societal programming surrounding traditions, religions, and the rigid definitions of right and wrong, embracing instead a space of acceptance for what is.

Let us respect and honor those who came before us, who may have endured challenging lives and inflicted pain in ours.

They played their parts well, often suffering greatly, ultimately for our growth.

“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I'll meet you there." — Rumi

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If you are navigating your grief journey and feel ready to begin connecting with your departed loved ones, click the link below for invaluable resources and support:

Healing Hearts Support for Bereaved Parents Linktree:

https://linktr.ee/HealingHeartsSupport

You are warmly invited to join our support community, focusing on healing, wholeness, and connection.

Sending you big love.

Tuning into Love: Connecting with Departed Souls through Frequency

If you’re interested in learning how to connect with your departed loved ones, think in terms of frequency.

Humans have a remarkably limited ability to perceive the vast array of frequencies that exist around us.

Imagine if you could see, hear, feel, and smell everything that is happening in this very moment—it would truly blow your mind!

Connecting with our loved ones in spirit is a matter of tuning into these frequencies, much like adjusting a radio dial.

When you are in a deep state of grief, your vibrational frequency is significantly lowered, making it challenging to access the higher frequencies where spirits dwell.

This highlights the importance of grounding and healing if you wish to connect with high-vibrational beings, including your loved ones on the other side.

Equally crucial is the process of releasing limiting beliefs.

Let go of skepticism, the fear of judgment, and the notion that connecting with the spirit realm is somehow wrong.

Once you begin to remove these blocks and raise your vibration, you open yourself up to the magic that awaits.

For instance, today I received profound messages from my dear friend Renee, whose son, Madison, passed away last year.

Madison has found clever ways to communicate with his mom.

One of his favorite methods is to playfully interfere with her car radio, randomly changing the stations or switching to songs he wants her to hear.

Today, while Renee was with two of Madison’s friends, he took his antics to another level—switching the radio between English, French, and Spanish.

One of the friends, who is Hispanic, jokingly said, “Madi, if that’s you, switch it to Spanish.”

To their astonishment, he did so immediately and kept it there!

This is just one of the many ways spirit beings can communicate with us.

If you are navigating your grief journey and feel ready to start connecting with your departed loved ones, click the link below for invaluable resources and support:

Healing Hearts Support for Bereaved Parents Linktree

You are warmly invited to join our support community, where we focus on healing, wholeness, and connection.

Sending you big love.

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