Who doesn’t?! Truth is many people don’t feel safe at all... for large segments of their lives. It’s like living in survival mode, constantly running from the monsters and demons of anxiety chasing us or completely shut down by depression. How can we find safety?
Let’s look at what’s happening before we talk about how to shift it... when our basic needs of survival... food, safe place to live, finances, physical safety, emotional safety... are threatened, we are living in survival mode. All of our blood rushes to our extremities as an attempt for us to flee, our cortisol levels go up, our heart races, our minds race... This affects our ability to rest and sleep, which is vital to our healing. Our bodies get worn out from trying to just survive!
This kind of living is not sustainable and makes for a lot of misery. The thing is that most people endure the most horrible conditions for so long that they get used to it! Yikes! So, here’s the thing... in order to shift out of survival mode and into healing, a person has to DECIDE that they’re sick and tired of being sick and tired. I mean completely DONE with that! Otherwise, they can’t be helped...
And here’s the other thing... not only do they need to be so OVER living in such an anxious depressed state, their DESIRE to be healed must be GREATER than their fears of not being able to be healed, in order for them to move forward. Let’s frame that a different way... a person must LOVE themselves enough to take care of the FEARFUL part of them they are healing.
Now that we understand that, let’s talk about ways to feel SAFER so we can choose to heal ourselves, rather than continue to fight ourselves and others while in survival mode. What we need at this point is to create BALANCE and to GROUND ourselves since we are unstable.
Here are two SIMPLE things we can do to create grounding, balance and safety:
1) Sit still in a chair for 5 minutes each day... Do you think that’s silly and won’t work?... Well, I can see where you would think so, but I assure you it will. Here’s why... What we’re working with is an overstimulated nervous system... It’s like a tightly wound angry ball of energy that needs time to unwind and settle down. Just do it. Try to just relax and breathe. Take some long deep breaths with long deep exhales. Don’t worry about your mind racing and obsessing and replaying the same sad story over and over again. Just sit still and watch it all like you’re watching a movie.
2) Take a walk...or dance a bit... anything to get your feet touching the ground. This is how you GROUND yourself. It doesn’t have to be a very long walk, although that’s nice if you can. But even a short walk helps, especially if you’re very upset. Once again, remember to breathe. Your breath can bring you to safety.
Once you feel SAFE enough, you can start advancing towards healing yourself. The most skillful way to heal yourself, especially if you’re really in a bad way, is to call in an expert who’s already done what you want to do and knows how to teach others. And that’s exactly what I’m doing for my clients!
So if you’re done with being in survival mode and you’re ready to create safety, support and a freaking new life for yourself that’s joyful and full of love, then send me a PM HERE so we can book a call to see if we’re a match to work together. And I can get you the same results I’m getting my clients.
It’s time for you to start enjoying your life! I love you so much! ❤️