Have you ever found yourself saying, “I feel GUILTY because so and so expects ... from me, and I can’t or don’t want to do that”? Or how about, “I am doing this because I feel OBLIGATED to do it”?
Let’s take a moment to unravel this. Why do we feel obligated to do anything? Is it because we said we would do it, because at the time we may have been willing to do it, and we don’t want the other to be upset with us if we don’t? Is it because we feel it’s important to fulfill others expectations of us. What happens if we don’t fulfill those expectations? Do we feel guilty and like we’re a horrible person? Well yes, that’s it.
So it comes around again to guilt and expectations. We don’t want to feel guilty. And we don’t want to feel like a horrible person. So we do what’s expected of us so that we won’t feel guilty and like a horrible person, or we don’t do what’s expected of us and feel guilty and like a horrible person!
Isn’t that something! We are playing all these tricks to avoid feeling guilty and unworthy, but we can’t get around it. Maybe we add RESENTMENT to our feelings of guilt and unworthiness because we don’t like it that other people expect things from us. And we don’t like it when other people rule our lives by their expectations. We feel trapped and bound by others’ needs and wants.
What if instead of avoiding guilt, unworthiness and resentment, we turned around and offered it LOVE and ACCEPTANCE? What if we as the LIGHT stopped running away from guilt, unworthiness and resentment and decided to shine our Light into the Darkness of these parts of us that are arising simply because they are asking to be healed?
Well, I will tell you what will happen: first, we will heal the parts of us that feel guilty, unworthy and resentful. Then because we’ve taken back our power, we will begin to make decisions based on what serves us best in this moment, instead of trying to fulfill other people’s expectations for our lives. Then as we grow in our ability to listen to what’s true for us, we come out of this codependent behavior of constantly trying to please other people so we won’t feel guilty or unworthy. And we feel completely FREE! Yay!
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