I have been observing myself again. And I notice my propensity to feel sadness or disappointment as certain people go through their struggles. Part of me wishes I could move them along and get them to a place where they are all better. Then I realize that part of me is the part of me that is really only concerned with how I feel, and I don't want to have to feel what the other feels.
It's hard for me to watch other people struggle. It reminds me of when my kids were learning how to tie their shoes, and after what seemed like an eternity of them trying, I just wanted to grab the shoelaces and do it for them. That would put me out of my misery, and I wouldn't have to watch them struggle anymore. Then I realize their struggle is why they are here. It is their path of evolution. And when I try to "help" by doing it for them or hurry them along so they can be done with that lesson and be happy, I shortcut their growth. (This is the plight of the co-dependent and enabler.)
So as I step back and observe myself with my selfish agenda to feel better and not have to see others struggle, I also go back to the realization of why we are here: to evolve and grow. Seeing this brings me back to the wisdom of allowing myself and others to be who they are without trying to force solutions. It's like baking a cake. It's important not to take it out of the oven until it's done.
Today I choose to support those people in my life who are struggling by sending lots of love and grace and peace. And I am grateful for these lessons we are learning together as we grow and return to Source from whence we came.