The Gift of Grief

Grief is a powerful force.

It can strike when you least expect it, sweeping in like a tidal wave, leaving you feeling overwhelmed and unsure of how to navigate its depths.

In my own journey of grief after the loss of my son, Cory, I came to understand that grief is a reflection of love—a testament to the depth of our connections.

However, grief is not confined to a single event. When a tragedy occurs, such as the death of a loved one, it often unearths unprocessed grief from past experiences, making it all the more challenging to cope.

During my darkest moments, I learned to honor my feelings, allowing myself to experience the full spectrum of my emotions—no matter how intense they were.

Thankfully, I felt my son Cory guiding me from the other side, illuminating my path through the murky waters of grief.

Through this journey, I discovered a simple and graceful way to heal.

I learned that even in the depths of despair, there exists a profound intelligence—a light of deep love—waiting to be uncovered.

Having traversed this difficult path and emerged on the other side, I am deeply committed to helping others navigate their own grief journeys.

One of the hardest aspects of processing grief, especially after losing a child, is the silence that often surrounds it.

Many people don’t know what to say, and as a result, they may avoid reaching out, leaving you to face this painful experience alone.

I know how isolating this can feel.

No one should have to walk this journey in solitude.

I would have cherished the support of someone who had walked this path before me and emerged on the other side, ready to guide me through the experience.

That’s exactly why I created the Healing Hearts Support Program— to offer the one-on-one support and guidance that I desperately needed.

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In addition, I’ve developed a comprehensive support document filled with valuable information to assist you as you navigate this healing process. You can access it here:

Healing Hearts Support Document

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Nobody Did Me Wrong

Nobody forced me to be in relationships with them.

I chose each and every experience in my life.

My soul knew how to create situations to get me in touch with all the beautiful parts of myself that want to be loved here now.

I AM learning how to take responsibility for myself, and to make decisions that are in my best interest.

So long as I blame and expect from others, I give others the power to make me happy or sad.

It never was about the other.

It was always about my opportunity to love myself more.

The next time my mind wants to loop around about how unfair I was treated…

I will gently remind myself that experience was important to bring me back to myself.

There’s nothing wrong.

Everything is in process as it’s meant to be.

Everything’s always working in my favor.

I choose forgiveness.

I choose gratitude.

I choose freedom. ❤️

To Be A Rebel

By Cory Roussel

A revolutionary is part of the political world; his approach is through politics.

His understanding is that changing the social structure is enough to change the human being.

A rebel, is a spiritual phenomenon. His approach is absolutely individual.

His vision is that if we want to change the society, we have to change the individual.

Society in itself does not exist; it is only a word, like “crowd” – if you go to find it, you will not find it anywhere.

Wherever you encounter someone, you will encounter an individual.

“Society” is only a collective name – just a name, not a reality – with no substance.

The individual has a soul, has a possibility of evolution, of change, of transformation. Hence, the difference is tremendous.

The rebel is the very essence of spirit.

He brings into the world a change of consciousness – and if the consciousness changes, then the structure of the society is bound to follow it.

But vice versa is not the case, and it has been proved by all the revolutions because they have failed.

No revolution has yet succeeded in changing human beings; but it seems we are not aware of the fact.

We still go on thinking in terms of revolution, of changing society, of changing the government, of changing the bureaucracy, of changing laws, political systems.

Feudalism, capitalism, communism, socialism, fascism – they were all in their own way revolutionary.

They all have failed, and failed utterly, because man has remained the same.

We have to be rebels, not revolutionaries.

The revolutionary belongs to a very mundane sphere; the rebel and his rebelliousness are sacred.

The revolutionary cannot stand alone; he needs a crowd, a political party, a government.

He needs power – and power corrupts, and absolute power corrupts absolutely.

Human consciousness has not grown for centuries. Only once in a while someone blossoms – but in millions of people, the blossoming of one person is not a rule, it is the exception.

And because that person is alone, the crowd cannot tolerate him.

His existence becomes a kind of humiliation; his very presence feels insulting because he opens your eyes, makes you aware of your potential and your future.

And it hurts your ego that you have done nothing to grow, to be more conscious, to be more loving, more ecstatic, more creative, more silent – to create a beautiful world around you.

Hence a Gautama Buddha or a Chuang Tzu hurts you because they have blossomed and you are just standing there.

The world has known only very few rebels.

But now is the time: if humanity proves incapable of producing a large number of rebels, a rebellious spirit, then our days on the earth are numbered.

Then the coming decades may become our graveyard. We are coming very close to that point.

We have to change our consciousness, create more meditative energy in the world, create more lovingness.

We have to destroy the old – its ugliness, its rotten ideologies, its stupid discriminations, idiotic superstitions – and create a new human being with fresh eyes, with new values.

A discontinuity with the past – that’s the meaning of rebelliousness.

These three words will help you to understand: reform, revolution, and rebellion.

Reform means a modification.

The old remains and you give it a new form, a new shape – it is a kind of renovation to an old building.

The original structure remains; you whitewash it, you clean it, you create a few windows, a few new doors.

Revolution goes deeper than reform.

The old remains, but more changes are introduced, changes even in its basic structure.

You are not only changing its color and opening a few new windows and doors, but perhaps building new stories, taking it higher into the sky.

But the old is not destroyed, it remains hidden behind the new; in fact, it remains the very foundation of the new.

Revolution is a continuity with the old.

Rebellion is a discontinuity.

It is not reform, it is not revolution; it is simply disconnecting yourself from all that is old.

The old religions, the old political ideologies, the old human being – all that is old, you disconnect yourself from it.

You start life afresh, from scratch.


The revolutionary tries to change the old; the rebel simply comes out of the old, just as a snake slips out of the old skin and never looks back.

The future needs no more revolutions.

The future needs a new experiment, which has not been tried yet.

Although for thousands of years there have been rebels, they remained alone – individuals.

Perhaps the time was not ripe for them.

But now the time is not only ripe….if you don’t hurry, the time will come to an end.

In the coming decades, either mankind will disappear or a new human being with a new vision will appear on the earth.

That new human being will be a rebel.

The difference between a revolutionary and a rebel.

To be a rebel we need to stand alone – yet together in this aloneness.

So easily, with all the expectations raised by so much info coming out – and talk of what is about to happen – we can sit and wait for someone else to do it for us, when this attitude itself is what has got us into this mess – giving our power away to governments, conditioning, status quo, the easy option, the safe option, not rocking the boat, etc.

Individuals have to take courage and speak up for themselves if we are to see this world change on a sustainable basis.

It’s just a cautionary point at this time of great expectations. 💖

Never Enough

I’ve been giving so much PRESENCE to this part of me that feels that it’s not enough.

I’m noticing that in the past, the way that I would work with this feeling of not being enough...

Is by trying to DO more so that I could BE more.

My mind was constantly trying to figure it out and control the situation, so that I don’t feel this part of me that feels not enough.

The funny thing about trying to do more to be more is...

It’s never enough!

No matter how much money I make...

No matter how many people respond to my posts...

No matter how many clients I have...

No matter how many experiences I have...

It’s never enough!

OMG! This mental struggling is so exhausting!

Ahhhh! Relax. Breathe. Rest...

I gently and kindly say to my mind...

Then I proceed to start something different.

We’re going to do nothing for a while...

I kindly inform myself.

We’re going to just sit on my sparkly butt and make the magic that I AM happen. 🤪

And in the process, we’re gonna love the hell out of the part of us that feels not enough.

It’s so simple!

And it’s more fun this way! 💖