Thirty-five years is a very long time.
And in that time, I was privileged to be married to a beautiful man whom I loved deeply and he did me.
We raised three amazing children who gave us three incredible grandchildren.
We lived in beautiful homes that we built together, traveled around the world, spent a lot of time together, were very compatible.
One of the things that I’m most proud of is the way that we authentically and lovingly communicated with each other.
That’s an important skill that we developed and honed.
As part of our shared journey, we lost our son Cory, which is one of the most traumatic things that a person can endure.
From one perspective, one could look at our situation and predict our separation, a very common statistic among couples who lose their children.
I view things differently and from a broader perspective...
Cory’s death was an activation of the next phase of our lives.
After four years on our grief journey, my husband asked me for a separation.
At first, I thought it was just a phase he was going through and that he would soon change his mind.
But standing at the kitchen counter as he reiterated his desire to be separated...
I realized that essentially what he was doing was freeing me and himself to move forward onto the next phase of our lives.
I decided I was going to move to Austin,Texas where I felt most at home.
Mind you, I had never supported myself in my entire adult life before this!
Making a transition like this requires a lot of courage, and that’s a huge understatement!
I chose a moving date which was one week before the fourth anniversary of Cory‘s passing.
I loaded up my car with the bare essentials, mostly my clothes and some art...
And I headed off for the biggest adventure of my life, and I’ve never looked back.
I started an Airbnb business in the home that I was living in, which I had to furnish from scratch.
The business took off and gave me space to travel and begin investing in my offering to the world.
Meanwhile, I took a month to be with myself before fully engaging with my husband again.
And over the next year, we talked every day.
In fact, I coached him to heal and manifest a new partner!
Recently our 6-month long online (cheap) no-contest divorce and settlement was finalized.
Both of us couldn’t be happier.
We’re still friends and see each other at family gatherings, without any weirdness or hostility.
It’s amazing!
Soon after I moved, I began investing my time, money and energy in bringing my message of healing and love to change the world.
These days I am a life coach bringing women through amazing transformations by teaching them how to love themselves unconditionally...
This is the gift that I’m bringing to the world and that I received through my grief journey.
I’ve learned how to heal myself in a way that’s simple and doesn’t take a long time...
And by the way, it’s the complete opposite of the way most people go about healing themselves!
I know why I came here to this earth...
I came here to create a new way of being based on unconditional love.
This world is going to look a whole lot different by the time I get finished with it!
And here’s my secret to consciously uncoupling from my 35-year marriage with my beautiful husband...
I had to be willing to let go of what I thought it should look like...
In order to make room for what would better serve me and our world at this time.
If this message inspired you, I invite you to take inspired action to move forward in your life.
Life is too short to be stuck following a script.
Be the creator and the writer of your experience.
Don’t let society dictate how you live your life.
Only you can bring your special gifts to our world...
And the entire world is counting on you to show up powerfully.
You got this, my friend.
I love you so much! 💖
