Have you ever noticed that women have a tendency to pick men who don’t treat them well over a guy who is super nice?
Why is that so?
Because women are craving the polarity that comes from strong masculine energy.
The guy who’s super nice is flowing from more of his feminine energy of trying to nurture and care for and do everything to get the woman to like him. This often does not generate enough polarity between the feminine and masculine to attract the woman.
The “problems” come in because both the man and the woman have not addressed their inner fears, and so they attract each other to bring those fears to the surface.
The masculine energy that tends to control and overpower the feminine energy becomes attractive to the woman because of the polarity generated by that masculine energy, even though the woman does not want to be controlled and overpowered.
However, this is toxic masculinity. There’s nothing wrong with it. It’s simply generated from fear, which is exactly what wants to be healed!
Because of the conditional love structures of our relationships, we have a tendency to expect another person to do things or not do things so that we avoid those “negative” feelings.
So we wind up mirroring back and forth all of our fears and those parts of us that want to be healed.
When it comes to the man, he is extremely afraid of allowing his insecurity to be seen. And the fact that men are conditioned to not feel, puts them in a difficult position to heal themselves because we must first feel it before we can heal it.
Yet, that insecurity is exactly what wants to be healed in order to be able to flow from the Divine masculine energy.
And until the man is able to heal that insecurity, he cannot get in touch with his Divine masculine energy, which is exactly what women want in a man.
When both the man and the woman learn how to take responsibility for healing themselves, instead of expecting others to keep them from their hurt feelings, then they position themselves for sacred union.
Everyone is responsible to do their own work of embodying the unconditional love that we are by healing all of the fears and insecurities that arise in our experience.
Women are tired of being responsible for the man’s experience and happiness and having to suppress their thoughts and feelings so that the man does not feel his insecurity.
Women are tired of superficiality and inability to be vulnerable and authentic with our feelings.
Women are tired of being controlled, overpowered and manipulated so that the man does not get in touch with his hurt feelings and insecurities.
Women are tired of being ignored, undervalued, overlooked and ghosted, simply because the man isn’t willing or able to be present with his own fears and insecurities.
Women are tired of having to play small and follow a script so that the man will love us.
Women are tired of being resisted at every turn, which is merely a reflection of the man resisting parts of himself that want to be healed.
What a woman really wants in a man is to be cherished from the energy of unconditional love expressed from the Divine masculine energy he is flowing in.
What a woman really wants in a man is someone who truly unconditionally loves themselves, knows how to heal his insecurities and flows from that confidence. That is so freaking hot!
What a woman really wants in a man is someone who will listen with nonjudgmental presence and allow the woman to open and be vulnerable so that both the man and the woman keep expanding into the infinite love that we are.
What a woman really wants in a man is to be cherished and adored as he has first cherished and adored himself.
What a woman really wants in a man is the freedom to be who she is, as she gives him the same freedom.
It’s time to begin flowing in the unconditional love that we are, instead of expecting other people to do our work.
Our world is depending on us to love and heal ourselves.
Are you ready to show up for yourself today?
Thank you for what you bring to our world.
Namaste, my friends. And I love you so much! ❤️
